Reclaiming Our Feminine Power: 8 Feminine Principles to Cultivate
How do we reclaim our feminine power?
Feminine power exists in all genders and all of life. This power is universal — often referred to as lunar or yin energy — while masculine power is known as solar or yang energy.
Feminine ways of being and leading are often ridiculed and diminished, even by those of us who want to embody them!
To reclaim our feminine superpowers, we can begin by exploring how we welcome or exile feminine energy within ourselves and in others.
I like maps as reference points of where to look. Having specific markers to explore along the way makes it easier for me to focus and use my discipline to embrace growth and change.
This is why I’ve whittled down a focus for this article on eight feminine energy principles, and practical tips to identify and embody them.
Drawing from the power of being over anxiety-based doing
Cultivating vulnerability
Apprenticing & surrendering into the unknown as a pathway to emergent wisdom
Engaging in power-with & relational harmony
Re-wilding through embodying our whole-being wisdom
Befriending our shadows
Practicing radical truth-telling
Liberating our erotic nature
1. Drawing from the power of being over anxiety-based doing
We live in a culture that praises us for busyness and "doing.” It’s easy to stay on the speed train of nonstop doing — not only because it’s culturally celebrated and encouraged, but also because our mind-body has been conditioned to check-off task lists, be productive, perform, and achieve to prove our sense of worth and social status.
Our early conditioning plays a role in curating our adaptive strategies that become the template for how we operate as adults. For example, I was taught as a child to manage my emotions and prove my worth by being busy. Laying around and resting was frowned upon, so even when I was exhausted, I felt pressured to be busy. Today, I still track internalized voices that tell me I’m lazy when I desire to rest or unplug from the busyness of life.
For many of us, it takes a good dose of self-love and self-permission to simply take time to rest — especially if our early conditioning is based upon proving our worth through achievements, productivity, or producing!
How does the culturally exalted superhuman persona live in our psyche and body? The superhuman fantasy is based upon the misperceptions that busyness is cool and that seeking externally for our value is the only way to happiness. This is a trap.
Taking inspired action
What does it mean to draw creative power and inspired action from a state of “being”?
For me, being is not about inactivity; it’s about action and clarity that emerge from an inner, intuitive flow. This flow state isn’t muddled by anxiety-based striving, or an urgency to get somewhere or prove something.
If we want to feel more present and connected to our whole self, it’s a worthy endeavor to track our addictive habits of doing.
What rationalizations, bargaining, and defensive posturing do we each use to justify why we can’t stop and we must keep going?
The art of being requires presence
This is how presence feels to me…
When I’m present, I feel spacious and softly alert. I have access to my internal experience, even if I’m triggered. I‘m able to track the nuances of what is occurring in the moment — inside of myself and in my external environment. This translates into a receptive quality of deep listening and curiosity. Presence slows my reactivity down and allows me to seek coherence between my mind, heart, and body intelligence.
Being does not mean inaction. An active state of ‘being’ occurs when I’m sitting with clients, walking in nature, or making love in a connected way. A spaciousness opens, and I become aware of the immediate experience, without being overly distracted by thoughts of performance or desired outcomes. There is a surrender into what is present, which becomes a world unto itself. My senses are high, and I feel present inside my body, which allows me to notice sensations, feelings, and a quiet yet expansive quality of listening.
This quite a contrast to doing, which often feels like a rapid-fire autopilot or robotic way of operating by checking off lists to manage anxiety and fears, without feeling present to the process.
Welcoming what is
The presence of being is a form of whole-hearted welcoming — without judgment and scrutiny. I’ve learned to cultivate my relationship to ‘being’ by spending hours on my meditation cushion learning to allow various states to come and go, while I watch my impulse to grasp on to some and push away others.
And when I surrender to the movements of these states, I find something very liberating and healing as I stop striving to control anything and simply sit with fear and contraction, sob with grief, or feel my heart swell with love for no particular reason. Mindfulness practices teach us to learn how to abide with the simplicity of what is alive in the moment. The presence of being allows me to open to ‘what is’. And from this place, creative ideas emerge, and clarity becomes known, without me trying to force something to happen.
Being is a sweet form of surrender. It’s fresh, new, and always emerging in each moment.
Keys to embodiment
Know common traps of anxiety-based doing: Discover which belief systems and personal conditioning keep you on the hamster wheel of doing. Are you trying to prove your worth by achieving, entertaining, having power, being the glue in your relationships, etc.? Examine your relationship to The Superhuman Compulsion: Busyness, Striving & Consuming.
Build discipline with boundary setting: Practice healthy boundary-setting with yourself and others.
Become intimate with your body intelligence: Identify and honor the intuitive and body-centered cues that tell you it’s time to slow down, rest, and dwell in the presence of your being.
Cultivate practices that help ground your presence of being: Engage in disciplined practices that support you to ground into your presence (mindfulness practices, quiet time in nature, journaling, nourishing connection with others, etc.)
“It takes immense courage and discipline to explore what’s behind the autopilot impulses of ‘doing,’ in order to yield into what it means to explore ‘being.’”
2. Cultivating vulnerability
Vulnerability is a powerful feminine energy, and yet, culturally, it’s been framed as weak. In general, men have been conditioned to believe that displaying emotions or tears is a sign of powerlessness. Meanwhile, women have been told that their emotional range is a problem and something to fix. This belief system creates wars inside of ourselves and between genders.
Vulnerability is an essential aspect of our embodied power.
To be vulnerable is to be raw, open, and unguarded with our heart, mind, and soul.
Our emotions give us insights into where we feel empowered or powerless. When we become curious about the information arising from our emotional body, we create opportunities to connect more authentically with ourselves — and subsequently with others.
Healing together through vulnerability
The courage to name and discuss our emotions with trusted allies can short-circuit the habit of pretending we’re not impacted by the disturbances in our own system as well as the larger systems that we participate in (our family, community, workplace, etc).
Vulnerability interrupts the weight of holding our difficult feelings alone.
We leverage our capacity to embrace our vulnerability each time we recognize our conditioned ways of guarding against it. Connecting with our body sensations and emotions will support accessing layers of our experience that live beneath our protective armor of beliefs and assumptions.
Vulnerability as self-love
Asserting our needs, setting clear boundaries, and maintaining self-care practices can feel vulnerable in a culture that has prescribed standards of what’s acceptable to think or feel.
To touch my vulnerability, I’ve had to give myself internal permission to be messy and human, instead of buttoned-up with a social standard ‘stamp of approval’ — which I know has been designed to control me and keep me small.
To be vulnerable is to see things as they are, rather than how we want them to be. This is where our power reigns.
Keys to embodiment
Practice radical self-honesty: Honor your most vulnerable feelings, name your internalized double-binds, and share about your direct experience with compassion for yourself and others. Being human is messy, yet when the heart stays engaged, messy can lead to deeper trust, empathy, and safety.
Express your love through vulnerable sharing — without blame: Take risks out of love (and self-love) in your relationships by speaking from your direct experience with personal responsibility. Find your own authentic way to share from your heart. Track impulses to blame others or shame yourself. What is your unique way of creating enough safety to melt down protective walls and deepen intimacy?
Interrupt reactive and defensive posturing: Interrupt reactive patterns of withdrawal, defensiveness, blaming, or shaming when emotions feel scary within yourself or expressed by others.
Know your allies and lean into them: Reach out to a trusted ally who will witness you, and hold a space for you to allow shameful or difficult voices out. Tell them what you need to feel safe, seen, and empathized with. Sometimes, our loved ones need training. Don’t be afraid to ask for what you need and want!
“Vulnerability opens us into our humanity — which builds connection and wholeness rather than reinforcing separation.”
3. Apprenticing to the unknown — A path to emergent wisdom
A key catalyst to embodying our feminine power is surrendering into the art of apprenticing to the unknown. As terrifying as the reality of uncertainty can feel like at times, it’s also a trustworthy and essential guide on our evolutionary path.
Paradoxically, the unknown can feel both like a threat and enlivening pure potential.
To be human is to live with paradoxes and unresolvable questions. While our life can theoretically be built upon great plans and dreams, in reality, it can only be truly known by living into the unexpected twists and turns along the way.
We can’t plan for the mysterious encounters that open our world into ecstatic experiences far beyond our wildest imagination. Nor can we plot for the hardships. Each time we meet ourselves in the unknown, we have the opportunity to build our resiliency, sovereignty, self-confidence and inner trust.
Understanding our primal wiring
Uncertainty is especially threatening when we fear that our needs for survival, safety, belonging, status, connection, power, freedom, or worthiness are at stake.
For the majority of human mammals, uncertainty activates fear — it’s a natural survival response. When we feel threatened, our system is wired to mobilize behaviors of fixing or controlling to manage undesirable feelings of powerlessness.
It’s exposing and disarming when we can’t predict the future, don’t know how to resolve a piece of our past, or manifest a dream that we yearn for in the future. Most of us will repeatedly problem-solve the shit out of our situation, just to avoid feeling five minutes of the primal fear that comes with uncertainty.
Yet, each time we surrender into the unknown, we tap directly into our primal essence — into the fertile ground of infinite possibility that exists beyond our mind.
The unknown as fertile ground for innovation
The unknown is where we dynamically birth aspects of ourselves, and deconstruct parts that we’ve outgrown, over and over again.
The feminine power of apprenticing and surrendering into the mysterious unknown requires faith and courage. To rebirth and innovate, we must surrender to what no longer serves us — whether that’s a job, relationship, passion, home, belief system, or defensive posturing.
Surrender is not a passive experience. It’s an active alertness. It draws upon our skills of tracking for signals, insights, desires, and needs which are often hidden behind voices of fear, logic, and self-doubt. Like a jaguar stalking in the darkness of the jungle, we must search for the scent of where we’re bargaining with ourselves, in denial about our situation, or enduring because we fear the unknown and become paralyzed or afraid to hope for more.
To surrender is to take responsibility for how we consciously choose, even in the midst of paradoxes and fears. It’s a pivot away from helpless submission and into empowered surrender.
Keys to embodiment
Track self-preservation and reactive patterns: When do you resist against the call to surrender into the unknown and instead attempt to control, fight, and fix it? You can build your self-awareness of these unconscious patterns by learning to track when you’re in denial, or afraid of what’s changing, and therefore getting lost in attempts to manage your fear through controlling, bargaining, rationalizing, or collapsing into despair and hopelessness.
Learn self-regulation: When fears of the unknown arise, how do you regulate the stress response in your nervous system, so you can listen and connect to what’s being revealed? How do you quiet the fears of not knowing, so that you can hear the inner guidance of your next baby step? How do you learn to surrender, over and over again, to nothing more than each emergent choice as they unfold, rather than a grand plan mapped on a spreadsheet with dates and timelines?
Develop centering practices: Practice coming back to your center through grounding, self-care, and self-regulation in times of uncertainty. Double down on nourishment and support while your life is being transformed and alchemized. What are your go-to’s to come back to center when you feel paralyzed by fear and anxiety?
When you experience self-aggressive thoughts, shame, or isolation, reach for trusted support: Self-criticism is a common dart of suffering that can impact how we orient when we’re going through an evolutionary cycle of change, loss, or disorientation. Be careful of sitting with your own thoughts for too long if they feel destructive — reach for support and reminders of who you really are!
“Uncertainty holds unique medicine. Yet, waiting for it to be revealed requires immense patience and trust.”
4. Engaging in power-with & relational harmony
We engage in the feminine principle of relational harmony when we bring disparate parts together into new constellations of connection and care for the whole. This is also called power-with.
Power-with is an integrated expression of power. When engaging in power-with, we’re attuned to the way our decisions impact the whole. We listen to a larger field of wisdom to guide our choices.
Signature influences of power-with, which brim with feminine wisdom, reside in the art of love, presence, listening, befriending our shadow, embracing the unknown, accessing the wisdom of our intuition, patience, cultivating magic, and seeing beyond illusions.
We’re each responsible for creating the quality of connection that we seek by owning our experience, sharing our needs, desires, and boundaries in an open-hearted way. This feminine art is about releasing patterns of defensiveness, and instead, taking responsibility for our vulnerability.
We can look at three key components that set the tone and quality of our connection with ourselves and others:
Self: Our relationship to ourselves
How do we meet ourselves when we feel vulnerable, fearful, defensive, or powerless?
The more self-aware we are about how we operate — both our superpowers and our kryptonite — the more conscious choice we have to create harmony instead of dissonance.
Taking personal responsibility for our feelings, no matter how difficult or uncomfortable they may feel, is what deepens self-acceptance and gives us the freedom to choose the kind of relationships we want to cultivate from the inside-out.
Interpersonal: Our relationship to others
How do we show up with one another when we have differences, when our needs are not being met, or when we feel scared of rejection, failure, or abandonment?
The quality of presence we bring to each interaction, including our ability to share authentically, listen with an open-heart of curiosity, clarify to seek understanding and check assumptions, is how we deepen trust, safety, and create harmony — even when we have differences and disappointments one another.
System: Our relationship to life — to larger systems, plants, animals, minerals, life forms, and the planet herself
We’re in an ongoing relationship with life itself. How do we relate to the larger organism we’re all a part of — the planet and all the inhabitants here? Do we protect those who are oppressed, or turn our heads in denial of misuses of power? Do we feel a sense of belonging, purpose, and joyful responsibility? Do we feel inspired to share our gifts with the world?
We each have a voice in the larger conversation — be it political, social, or spiritual. How do we express it — from fear or love?
Keys to embodiment
Define your personal core values related to power, intimacy, love, respect, and care for yourself and others: Explore how you’re living by them and what causes you to override them, and why.
Study how your early conditioning manifests in helpful and/or disruptive ways as an adult: Explore your adult relationship patterns and adaptive strategies to better understand repetition-compulsion patterns that seek to be transformed and aligned with your personal values.
Embrace conscious relationship as your teacher of embodied power and co-evolution: This is about disciplining yourself to set clear boundaries, and courageously share your feelings and needs in a transparent and connected way. Do you honor your relationships as the sacred practice ground for the cultivation of harmony and power-with? What are your practices that support you in sharpening your capacity to listen and reflect with empathy and curiosity?
“When are you moving from love, versus fear? Can you distinguish the difference in your body?”
5. Re-wilding through embodying our whole-being wisdom
The feminine art of listening doesn’t just occur through the intellect. There are reservoirs of sophisticated wisdom that live within each one of us.
Our whole-being wisdom includes our cognitive thinking, but also extends into body sensations, emotional intelligence, intuition, erotic intelligence, heart guidance, and gut feelings that unexpectedly arises from a non-linear frame and reverberates as a ‘knowing.’
Multiple channels of intelligence
How do we locate these multidimensional channels of wisdom?
Let’s look at this through a metaphor. In the cockpit of an airplane, one prominent feature is the steering wheel. If we rely exclusively on this singular feature to track changing conditions and assess potential threats, then we’re flying partially blind. We need the array of instruments in the cockpit to measure altitude, radar systems, temperature gauges, and so on.
We each have an internal cockpit as well. If we’re solely focused on our rational thinking as the steering wheel to navigate our flight, then we may miss the incoming data from other channels of wisdom that are relevant for our journey.
Let’s explore these channels of wisdom and how we can access them:
Mind — When we become intimate with our mind, we come into an honest relationship with our operating system. Self-awareness is the first step towards recognizing, dis-identifying, and interrupting the disempowering habits that imprison us in patterns of fear, control, and resistance.
Somatic Intelligence — Our body wisdom is powerful. It’s the vessel that channels and directs life force flowing through us — the home from which we experience life. The body is a powerful messenger that delivers information about our internal conflicts and deeper desires. It tracks our boundaries and gathers information through our five senses and internal sensations. It holds our repressed memories, emotions, and beliefs.
Erotic Intelligence — Our erotic intelligence is our life force and creative power. It’s the primal, passionate, and creative intelligence that breathes and moves us. Erotic flow includes our sexual arousal and expands beyond, to include the fullness of our presence, life-force, vitality, and innate joy. Other forms of erotic intelligence include all forms of creativity from formulating business plans and envisioned futures to the bliss of self-expression through dance, art, laughter, and immersions in nature.
Heart — Our heart is filled with hormones that release when we feel love, gratitude, and connection. Our connection to our heart helps us regulate states of activation and fear. It’s also the center of our expression of love and passion, and a chalice for the metabolization of our grief and heartbreaks.
Spirit — Our spirit is an expression of our expanded Self which expands beyond the boundaries of ego patterns, personality traits, achievements, social, economic class, and other self-identifying markers. Our spirit is the inner compass that guides us towards remembering and prioritizing our soul’s destiny. It teaches us through life’s lessons and guides us towards the mastery of various human experiences.
Our whole-being wisdom is an apothecary of integrative medicine that we can draw upon any time. Together and individually, each channel of wisdom provides us with the essential ingredients to navigate times of uncertainty, as well as opportunities for creativity and innovation.
Learn more about whole-being wisdom in my article on re-wilding.
Keys to embodiment
Identify which channels of wisdom you most draw upon: From the list above, identify which channels of wisdom come easily, and which ones you need to turn up the volume on to access your full wisdom. Have any of these been repressed?
Slow down and listen: Practice accessing your whole-being wisdom by slowing down, attuning to your sensations and emotions, and tracking subtle energies within yourself and your environments. Learn to trust your instincts rather than disregard the subtle feelings you’re having.
Strengthen your muscle of intuition and body intelligence: Become familiar with the cues (physical and energetic) through which you access your whole-being channels of intelligence. Choose to prioritize and listen to these internal signs when they arise. Build enough self-awareness to interrupt habits of repressing or dismissing your own intelligence and instincts with ration or logical reasoning.
“When we practice deeper embodiment we notice, learn from, and make use of multiple sources of our intelligence.”
6. Befriending our shadows
We engage in the feminine principle of befriending our shadows when we reclaim aspects of ourselves that have previously been banished, either by our own disapproval, or the criticism cast upon us by others. When painful feelings and memories are tucked away from our awareness, they becomes shadows.
Shadows typically show up as anxious-driven behaviors of control, defensiveness, and judgment towards ourselves or others. They represent a form of blindness — an inability to track, own, and embrace unconscious habits and behaviors responsible for reinforcing limiting beliefs and disharmony.
Shadows follow us wherever we go, but they’re often hard to catch without some illuminating factor that casts them into the light of our awareness. This may occur through our own discipline of meditation, self-reflection and self-inquiry, as well as through receiving feedback from others about potential blindspots.
Shadows invite us into integration
Everyone has shadows. Each one of us has unique strategies in which we protect and defend. It’s part of being human. We’re not designed to be perfect. We’re wired to become reactive when we feel threatened, so befriending our shadows requires self-compassion and radical self-honesty.
Shadows serve as an intelligent form of compartmentalization, drawing upon the gift of how masculine energy can break wholeness into parts to create or examine reality more closely. Yet, to liberate repressed feminine energy, we need to bring these parts back into the wholeness of our heart.
Keys to embodiment
Embrace your primal wiring: Instead of reacting habitually, we can train ourselves to slow down and create space between when a trigger arises, and how we chose to respond rather than react. As we develop self-awareness and personal agency, we create the power of conscious choice. To learn more read my articles on Re-wilding or Wired to Connect and Protect.
Engage in a journey of power reclamation: To transform our conditioned habits of reactivity and suffering, we can draw from our personal agency and self-love to reclaim lost or buried parts of our vulnerability and innocence. To learn more you can explore The Power Reclamation System.
Cultivate self-compassion: Find people and practices that help you to dis-identify with thoughts and beliefs that spiral you into shame, or behaviors of entitlement, blame, self-righteousness, and criticism. These are good indicators that some shadows of fear, scarcity and self-preservation are revealing themselves in the moment.
Learn to give and receive feedback in a loving and respectful way: An exposing aspect of shadows is that other people often notice them, or feel the impact of our shadow behaviors, long before we realize they’re at play. Learn to interrupt the impulse to defend, and instead slow down and get curious when someone gives you feedback. Cultivating relationships founded on safety, empathy and care are key ingredients needed to respectfully share impact or observations related to one another’s blindspots and shadows.
“Befriending our shadows is a heroic journey.”
7. Practicing radical truth-telling
Radical truth-telling is a component of our fierce feminine power. And it starts with radical self-honesty. How do we take ownership for the ways we protect our vulnerability through various strategies of manipulation, control, hiding, withdrawing, blaming others, or shaming ourselves?
Radical self-honesty takes root within our open and vulnerable heart. We’re speaking with radical truth when we talk about “what is” rather than get lost in defending our fantasy of “what it should be.”
Taking personal responsibility
Radical truth-telling is not the unconscious offloading that can be express through blame, passive-aggressive, and indirect criticism or self-righteousness. Yet, if we don’t feel safe emotionally — within ourselves or with others— it’s natural to draw upon these common defensive tactics without being aware.
As a radical truth-teller, we take responsibility for tracking what we feel, and our habitual impulses to off load our stress — or hide our vulnerability — by blaming others.
Radical truth-telling is an art of compassionate ownership, expressed through respectful and embodied communication.
Radical truth-telling with ourselves
I’ve found one of the most difficult parts of reclaiming this feminine powers is fierce truth-telling with myself when I sense it may cause disappointment or disconnection with those I care for. Who we decide to become intimate with will either support us to speak openly — because we share this core value — or it won’t. Sometimes defensive patterns and relationship triggers don’t allow room for this, and that’s a heartbreak when it happens.
Yet, reactivity, and protecting ourselves when feeling emotionally threatened, is a real phenomenon, no matter how evolved we are. This is part of our human nature, and it’s up to us to decide who we will entrust our precious hearts with, and who we feel is unable to hold a big enough space of love and acceptance for us to safely expose our personal conditioning, messiness, and differences.
When I stand for authenticity over conditioning, I take the risk of inadvertently becoming a threat to others who don’t want me to change. Sometimes we become alienated and judged by those who don’t like us coloring outside of the conditioned lines of their personal belief systems of ‘right’ and ‘wrong’.
Embracing feminine power requires us to speak the truth. To bring our voice out of hiding and to know that what we have to say, how we feel, what we desire — all has a place in the universe.
What are you willing to stand for even if it means you’ll be exiled?
Are you willing to say no when you’re expected to say yes?
How do you muster the courage to follow a soul call, even if that means loss, grief, and disorientation?
Becoming our own refuge
Feminine power cares more about authenticity, vulnerability, and connection (to self and other) than being right, liked, and revered as the superhero.
We must be our own cave and temple — a place within where we refine our emotional intelligence, self-reflect on our reactivity, extend compassion for our messiness, and sharpen our empathetic listening on behalf of the whole — not just our own needs.
As we evolve and open, Love will continue to expand our heart’s capacity to welcome challenges, conflict, and discomfort. It takes great courage to honor our personal values when they differ from those around us, and simultaneously speak about it without self-righteous judgment or blame.
Keys to embodiment
Befriend your shadows and core wound patterns: The more intimate you are with your reactivity and triggers, the more mindful you can be with how to manage the heightened states of emotions and share your feelings vulnerably.
Map your relationship to boundaries: Do you know your boundaries? How do you respond when your boundaries have been stepped on? How do you set boundaries to protect what is precious to you? How do you relate to the boundaries of others, and how do you communicate around boundaries? Explore more in this article.
Explore your relationship to conflict: How do you relate to conflict or disappointment? Are you avoidant to the extent that you withhold from sharing your feelings when there is impact? Do you fear loss of connection and sponge up other people’s blame and emotional baggage to avoid the fear of rejection or abandonment?
“To become a radical truth-tellers, we must become our own refuge — from the inside out.”
8. Liberating our erotic nature
Freeing and expressing our erotic nature is at the heart of the feminine power of creativity. This erotic life force is the seat of our creative power, and contributes to how we live, love, receive, open, and surrender to life.
Erotic energy is mysterious and provocative, a shapeshifting conduit for healing, creativity, and emergent potential.
It’s often felt as a pulsating, throbbing, sensual vitality that arises in the pelvis and belly, undulating up the spine towards our brain. In our consumer-driven culture, erotic energy has been narrowly defined as sexual arousal. Yet, this is only one of a multitude of ways in which eroticism moves through us.
Erotic intelligence beyond sexuality
We can be turned on by someone or something without being genitally aroused. For example, when I’m in nature, in the flow of physical activity, or engaged in a collaborative creative process, I get incredibly turned on. Through the process of writing, I’ve felt hormonal highs that are no different than what my body feels after a physical orgasm. The erotic satisfaction extends beyond my sex and into my heart. And into a state of flow, grace, synchronicity, and magic.
To know our erotic self is to be fully present to the inner landscape of our direct experience, sensual body, and emergent impulses to create. This is where accessing our whole-being wisdom is very helpful!
When we’re in a flow state of juicy open-hearted connection to our erotic self, we transmit a quality of aliveness that nourishes our whole being and everyone around us. A conscious relationship with this life force transmits a sonar wave of manifestation, healing and love.
recognizing our personal flow states
Signals of activated erotic intelligence include:
being fully aware of your body sensations in the present moment
feeling the joy and arousal of creative flow
mastering a skill and feeling your personal power
accessing trust and acceptance
experiencing the beauty, peace and stillness of the natural world
feeling emotional intimacy with yourself, others and life
participating in and experiencing synchronicity and magical encounters that can’t be orchestrated by the mind.
Keys to embodiment
Explore what activates your erotic intelligence: What makes you feel most alive, playful, creative, turned on, and nourished? What activities create a bubble of satisfaction in which you lose all sense of time?
Learn nervous system regulation: The practice of regulating your nervous system to relax your mind-body will naturally create spaciousness. Feeling open and in a state of non-striving or performing allows our our erotic nature, curiosity and playfulness to come alive.
Court your inner beloved: Take time to court yourself as the Beloved. How do you relate to your body? How do you relate to inner radiance and power? How do you to embrace your desires, passion, yearnings for self-expression and connection?
“Our erotic nature is the seat of our life force and power. It vibrates with aliveness, turn-on, and connection, both sexually and non-sexually.”
The path of embodied leadership: The integration of our masculine & feminine energies
To embody our full power is to integrate our feminine and masculine principles.
One way to liberate repressed feminine energy is to become aware of where our own masculine energy is out of balance. How are we reinforcing the voices of the patriarchy from the inside-out?
Our personal power is a constellation of the creative and integrative ways that we express yin (feminine) and yang (masculine) energies in our daily lives — especially when we’re under stress, or navigating complexity and chaos.
The path of embodied leadership is a courageous journey of integration and embodied power.
It’s an invitation to integrate and descend from our heads into our hearts, and into the ground of our being. A devotional practice of embodying the fullest expression of who we are — including how we harmonize and balance our feminine and masculine powers.
When walking a tight rope we learn to lean our body weight in various directions to seek balance and harmony. This is what it’s like to integrate and embody our power. We’ll wobble, falter, and fall. That’s expected. Where our true power lies is in how we respond to feeling thrown off center, fearful, or powerless. Our capacity to witness our behaviors and beliefs, rather than merge or identify with them, is how we catch our falls or pick ourselves up with care after we fall. This is how we stop reinforcing the patriarchy or repressing our own feminine powers.
“We need to balance and harmonize the expression of feminine and masculine energies on the planet.”
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